Even if you have accepted that divorce is the best possible scenario for your future, you still might be scared. That’s ok. You know everything about the past and nothing about the future. It leaves room for doubt and worry.
Change the way you are looking at your situation. If you think you are leaving a safe, comfortable spot for something unknown and uncertain, you might not be viewing things clearly. If your marriage were safe, happy, and secure, then you likely wouldn’t be seeking to end it. Secondly, life is uncertain. You just may be more aware of it now.
You may be quick to point out that the things you are now uncertain about are different: child custody and being alone. We will discuss these as well.
Child Custody
The fear of losing your children will weigh heavily on you. When you meet with your attorney, tell her how important your children are to you. Your child custody attorney knows the law and can apply it to your circumstances. Ask about the difference between the following:
- Legal Custody
- Physical Custody
Legal custody means you have an equal say regarding the child’s education, religion, and medical decisions. Physical custody is where the child physically lives. It is possible to have joint legal custody (50/50) and have shared physical custody (70/30).
Some states might list reasons why parents would lose legal custody of their child. Your attorney might tell you that they don’t apply to you. But always focus on what you can control: being a parent in whatever capacity you can be.
Being Alone
Instead of worrying about being alone, shift your attention towards your mental and physical health. Second marriages have a higher divorce rate than first marriages—and third marriages go even higher. There are several explanations why, but people don’t take the time to fix what was wrong from their first marriage before entering another.
Even if your spouse played a prominent role in why the marriage ended, you still need time to heal emotionally. And you have to begin your new life alone. You will have new routines, new schedules, maybe even a new job. Take the time to settle into your life before inviting someone else to share it with you.
And don’t spend time worrying about whether your former spouse is in a relationship. Your choice to be (or not to be) in a relationship is yours to make.
Is It Normal to Be Scared of Divorce?
If you’re feeling scared of divorce, know that you’re not alone. Your life changes significantly when you get a divorce, and the steps in the process can be complicated, depending on your situation. There are many questions to consider, such as: Do you have numerous assets to be divided? Do you have children? However, when you work with a compassionate, experienced attorney, you can trust that your interests will be well protected.
Turn to a Compassionate, Experienced Attorney for Help
We understand change is scary, but when you have the right people by your side, your worries will become less. If you are considering a divorce, you are probably concerned and worried about your future. Take action and contact the experienced divorce attorneys at Amsberry Law Firm. Schedule your no obligation consultation with us and learn how we can support and help you through this challenging time in your life.
Attorney Russell J.G. Amsberry
Attorney Russell J.G. Amsberry founded the Amsberry Law Firm in 1995 with the goal of providing clients with exceptional, focused representation on their issues. His success as a legal advocate has been reflected in the numerous professional honors he has received, such as speaking engagements and inclusion in Scene in SA magazine’s listing of the best lawyers in San Antonio, a Distinguished rating from Martindale-Hubble, and an amazing rating from Avvo. [ Attorney Bio ]
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