Three Co-Parenting Tips for the Recently Divorced

If you’re a parent, there’s a new challenge on your horizon as soon as your divorce is finalized: Co-parenting with your ex. Many people find the concept of working as a team with their former partner daunting, but it is important to keep in mind that despite all the differences that led you to end your marriage, you still have a common goal of raising your children well and giving them the love, discipline, and support they need to thrive. Though the love between you and your ex may be a thing of the past, let the love you share for your child be a guiding light through this difficult challenge. Read on to discover The Amsberry Law Firm’s tips for successful co-parenting.

  1. Communication is key.

You and your co-parent need to be on the same page about things like discipline and rules. If not, it can be confusing for your child. Switching back and forth between Mom’s rules and Dad’s rules can be stressful for children and contribute to a sense of insecurity.

Co-parents should also communicate clearly about schedules, boundaries, and anything going on in your life or your child’s that the other parent might benefit from knowing about.

Avoid using your child as a go-between, especially for disagreements. If you don’t, it can cause your child to feel guilty. It can also lead to resentment from your child.

  1. Be flexible.

Sometimes life doesn’t go according to plan. While it’s important for co-parents to respect one another’s schedules, it may also be necessary to be flexible when something unexpected comes up. Remember, that you would want your co-parent to do the same for you if the roles were reversed.

  1. Present a united front.

You and your co-parent aren’t always going to agree on everything, but you should keep disagreements out of sight and earshot of your child. Psychology teaches us that children tend to interpret arguments about parenting as their own fault. If your child is already feeling guilty about your divorce, which many do, witnessing arguments can exacerbate those feelings.

If you are facing a family law issue such as divorce or a child custody battle, The Amsberry Law Firm team is here to help. We have extensive experience helping men and women get out of bad marriages and move forward into happier, healthier futures. Contact us to learn more.

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Amsberry Law Firm

Mr. Amsberry is board-certified in family and labor and employment law by the Texas Board of Legal Specialization. He is also active in family law, estate and elder law, and business law. He is a proven litigator who has argued before the United States 5th Circuit Court of Appeals and earned favorable outcomes in complex, precedent-setting employment and civil rights cases. He served as a reservist assistant judge advocate general in the U.S. Army and is a sought-after lecturer and speaker on a range of legal issues.